How do we arrive at a place of knowing ‘I am enough, I always have been’?

Therapy at it’s core is an empowering process. It enables us to grieve the pain and injustices of our past histories, whilst acknowledging I am more than my history. Therapy gives us our voice, and we can use it to step out of the definitions of others and know deeply ‘I have the right to be’.

Regardless of how we identify, in our sexuality we can all to some extent or another find ourselves boxed by the definitions of family, culture, society or by the eyes of the other. Porn can confuse and distort what is expected from sex, through objectification it can remove the person, the subject, intimacy. Sadly, our world is also, more than ever, a hateful one, where those with a hateful voice have been given permission to speak. Discrimination and hate can shrink us, distort us, or find a twisted internal voice which quietly, or not so quietly, attacks and undermines us from within.

Sex is libido, life-force, it is central to our sense of self and our aliveness. Yet family, cultural, and societal taboos can make it shameful, confusing, contradictory. All this can combine to make our experience of ourselves as a sexual being, at times, complex and hard to negotiate. At times we might not be clear what we have consented too, what we feel comfortable with, when we can say no. We might have experienced sexual situations where our no has not been heard. We might judge ourselves and our sexual experiences.

Whatever you bring to explore I will bring openness, treading lightly, watching out for shame and its ability to shut down what needs to be known. I will also bring hope knowing, from my past professional experience, the wonder of finding acceptance and understanding in both our differences and our sameness.